The dreaded “D” word - Divorce
I was in an unhappy marriage that was plagued by infidelity and emotional abuse. I stayed in it because I read in the bible that God hates divorce. For years I endured the anger, the hurt, the pain and guilt that I was not measuring up to God’s standards. The continued adulterous relation led to the breakdown of my marriage and eventually to the dreaded “D” word – DIVORCE.
I didn’t have a plan and I didn’t know how I would recover from the betrayal and the hurt. I felt abandoned by God because I was now a divorcee. I couldn’t walk into a room without feeling like every eyes were on me, without feeling judged. The mistakes of my failed marriage led to guilt and I allowed the labels the world placed on me define me for a long time. Rehearsing the hurt, the betrayal and living with it every day was chipping at my faith and making me skeptical of others even when they were attempting to help. I was trapped in my past and it was holding me captive.
I had to make a choice: wallow in the past or move forward. Moving forward meant I had to let go and let God. I surrendered my pain, my guilt to God, He took me on a journey of healing and he revealed that He does not hate me, the divorcee. I also learnt that God does not hate divorce for the reasons we have been made to believe or because it breaks the law (Malachi 2:16).
God hates divorce because of the pain and hurt you have to endure. Divorce breaks you, it breaks your heart, it shatters your self-esteem, it shatters your self-confidence, it shatters your will to live, it shatters your will to love again.
God hates divorce because he knows that divorce wounds and attempts to destroy His precious beloved, divorce steals, kills and destroys God's creation.
When divorce happens, only God can heal that kind of pain. You can only go through this painful season with God. Only God can create something beautiful out of the ashes so there is still hope.
I didn’t have a plan and I didn’t know how I would recover from the betrayal and the hurt. I felt abandoned by God because I was now a divorcee. I couldn’t walk into a room without feeling like every eyes were on me, without feeling judged. The mistakes of my failed marriage led to guilt and I allowed the labels the world placed on me define me for a long time. Rehearsing the hurt, the betrayal and living with it every day was chipping at my faith and making me skeptical of others even when they were attempting to help. I was trapped in my past and it was holding me captive.
I had to make a choice: wallow in the past or move forward. Moving forward meant I had to let go and let God. I surrendered my pain, my guilt to God, He took me on a journey of healing and he revealed that He does not hate me, the divorcee. I also learnt that God does not hate divorce for the reasons we have been made to believe or because it breaks the law (Malachi 2:16).
God hates divorce because of the pain and hurt you have to endure. Divorce breaks you, it breaks your heart, it shatters your self-esteem, it shatters your self-confidence, it shatters your will to live, it shatters your will to love again.
God hates divorce because he knows that divorce wounds and attempts to destroy His precious beloved, divorce steals, kills and destroys God's creation.
When divorce happens, only God can heal that kind of pain. You can only go through this painful season with God. Only God can create something beautiful out of the ashes so there is still hope.
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